Time Gone By

Confident mature man

I’ve never understood how someone can say they want one thing and do the exact opposite. The relationship therapists I’ve conferred with explain this as “commitment phobia.” This makes sense to me, since there doesn’t seem to be any other rational explanation for this behavior.

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Getting Ready for Love

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The first thing I recommend is letting go of past patterns toward a more fluid notion of a potential mate. Many clients come to this process asking to meet people who are similar to past partners, despite the fact that those relationships ultimately failed.

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The Risks and Rewards of Renewal

Doug, a recent transplant to the DC area, recently reached out to me for my matchmaking services. He explained that at 66, he had just retired from a teaching career, and was searching for a mate, not necessarily a wife. He stated that he did not want to be alone, but confided that he didn’t know whether he was appropriate for my network, given that he had been married and divorced four times.

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Moving Forward from Past Patterns

Leora Hoffman Associates - exclusive matchmaking for baby boomers in the Baltimore / DC Metro area

Henry and Jeanette, both in their 60’s, were introduced four months ago and got off to a great start. Jeanette, widowed for three years, had been happily married for 27 years. Her late husband was a physician who handled all the finances in the relationship, while she raised their family and volunteered in the community. Henry, an attorney in his late 60’s, was divorced for the past eight years. He had dated dozens of women, coming close to a committed relationship, but ultimately was left disappointed and disillusioned with love.

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